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Hello and welcome to "To the Hilltops!" We're so glad that you are joining us and choosing to share in this journey toward an ethics of Christian womanhood.
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Date: 2011-02-26 09:51 pm (UTC)My name is Kelly. I’m sorry I am so late in posting this. I lost track of time, and had to ask Kay how to post – technology, not my strong point. Anyway, I am a twenty two year old who lives in New Jersey. I love to bake, knit, and drink tea in bed with a good book. I don’t consider myself a writer. To be honest I’ve always gravitated more towards math and science, so please forgive me if nothing I write is as beautiful as your own posts. I recently graduated with my BA in Psyc and am excited about starting Graduate school for occupational therapy in the fall.
My parents have always been pretty open about sex. When I was 4 my favorite book was called “How You Were Born”. I think I even wanted to give it as a birthday present to a friend that year. I do feel the church struggles when it comes to the discussing sex. In many ways I feel the church touches on puberty, slaps a purity ring on the girls’ fingers, and call it a day. I am grateful to the wonderful older women who have “broken the cone of silence”. Despite this I still feel there is no real ongoing conversation.
As far as dating goes, I haven’t. I made the conscience decision (I’m not sure when…maybe in middle school) that I was not going to date until I felt I was ready to get married. At the time I felt dating was a complete waste of time unless both people were in a place in their lives where they were ready to look for a spouse. As I went through high school my belief only became stronger. I believe I was able to have closer friendships with both guys and women because I was not caught up in the drama of dating. College was even easier than high school as far not dating. It may have helped that I choice a major made up almost exclusively of women. As of today I continue to wait. Happily waiting for the man I believe God has for me. I tend to be quite oblivious, so someday the Lord may have to give me a little nudge, but for now I think of my future husband very little. I am actually very happy being single, and view this waiting time as a precious. I am able to focus on aspects that I need to change in myself. I have this time to work through my own issues so I don’t bring them into my future marriage.
I am very grateful to the women who have started this blog. It is very much need for today’s Christian women.
Welcome, Kelly!
Date: 2011-03-01 10:12 pm (UTC)I like the way your initial decision regarding dating (i.e. not seeking it until you were ready to consider marriage as well) complements an upcoming post by Melanie, on the equal-but-opposite error: giving a dating relationship the same tenacious till-death-do-us-part work that belongs in marriage. It'll go up tomorrow, in case you're interested. But I think it's good for us to hold the two realities simultaneously: that dating ought not be flippant, but neither should poor dating relationships be viewed as set in stone, the way rough patches in marriage are.
I'd like to add, too, that it's hard for me to envision your dad NOT talking about any subject, however taboo, that relates so crucially to spiritual health and right relationship with God :-)
Hi!
Date: 2011-03-09 06:20 pm (UTC)